While a mother’s role has been clearly defined, discussed, and most celebrated, the role of the father has been understated because the devil has given the illusion that it is not necessary. The state of our society and the world we live in today directly contradicts that notion, as we continue to feel the ill effects of so many fathers not fulfilling their God given role.

The role of a father has been so poorly defined. The dictionary defines a father as the male parent of a child. In the past, society has taught us that the father’s role was to provide for and discipline his children with little to no emotional connection with the children. Many men live under this misguided perception of fatherhood and their role because they were never taught God’s role. What does the bible say about fathers and their role?

God has specifically instructed fathers to:
1. Teach their children God’s instructions (Eph. 6:4)
2. Encourage their children (Col. 3:21)
3. Discipline their children (Prov. 3:11-12)
4. Show their children compassion. (Ps. 103:12)

God has instructed fathers to do more than simply provide and discipline. He has called fathers to encourage and show compassion. He has instructed fathers to be involved. An involved father provides his child a feeling of security, whether physical, emotional, mental or spiritual. When a child knows, his or her father will be there for him no matter what the situation is, it builds in them a sense of confidence, security and stability that can never be replaced.

Fathers, like mothers, are instrumental in the development of a child’s emotional well-being. Children not only look to their fathers to lay down the law, they also look to their fathers to provide a feeling of security, both physical and emotional. Children naturally want to make their fathers proud, and an involved father promotes inner growth and strength. Studies have shown that when fathers are affectionate and supportive, it greatly affects a child’s cognitive and social development. It also instills an overall sense of well-being and self-confidence.

While the discipline, compassion and encouragement are all necessary roles of a father, they cannot compare to the most important task of fathers. A father’s duty to teach his children God’s instructions, is by far the most important role of a father. Teaching a child to fear God and do His will is something that must be demonstrated. This is best demonstrated when a father becomes a child of God. It is then, as a father, you recognize the feeling of security that comes about from trusting that God will take care of you.

This father’s day, you are encouraged to grow in God and continue to do his will.

Happy Father’s Day!

--This article was written by Mrs. Uchenna Delva, Women’s Ministries Leader, Living Faith Church